Kinbaku Safeguard Questions

The following questions help you to understand how we can work with each other during a Shibari session. I compiled my point of view towards the most popular questions around safety and well being during a session. Let me emphasize that is is essential to me that we are both have a good session and mutual understanding regarding what we are doing and how.

Let me know if you have any questions

Consent

Consent is an important part of mutual understanding and working with Kinbaku / Shibari to manage expectations and well being.

• How does  your regular contract look like ?
  • Here is my regular contract: English version
• How do you achieve consent before and during our Shibari session ?
  • You receive comprehensive sample material that reflects what a session can potentially contain.
  • We will discuss what the session contains and document it.
  • We will talk about what we are doing during the session and you can opt out of whatever we planned any time.
• Which techniques (binds, suspension, gags etc.) do you plan to use during our session ?
  • As seen in my samples I am doing only relatively simple and non critical binds. No suspension or other stressful techniques. Hogties will probably the most stressful ones but only if your physiology allows it.
  • Depending on our agreement and inspiration we use classic Tenugui towels, (harness-) ball- or ring gags. If you like we can use simple toys like a plug.
  • I have done low level wax applications with models who like it and especially asked for it but this is not something we will usually do.
• What are your limits to how you apply techniques and sensation during our session ?
  • All applications are on a very low stress level and we will not go beyond it even if a model asks for it. This is about aesthetically pleasing images and nothing else.
• Is there physical violence involved beyond the act of applying ropes.
  • No, we will only do what you can see in the sample images and series.
• Is nudity involved ?
  • Nudity is often involved but not necessarily. This depends on our agreement.
• Is sexual activity involved ?
  • No
• What are the safe words for ‘stop’ and for ‘slow down’?
  • A continuous communication between us during a session is essential for a mutual understanding and so that you can feel confident and comfortable. I will stop at the slightest sight of discomfort and any signal like “stop” will have the same effect.
• How many people will be part of the session ?
  • Only the two of us. There have been cases where a second model was taking part but that depends on our agreement.

Location

• Where does our session take place ? Is this a safe and private place ?
  • We will always stay in private places free of interruption from external sources. Usually and especially in the beginning we will stay in my personal house.  

Expertise

• Can you show me a gallery of different pictures taken from your previous sessions and do you have any references ?
  • You receive a comprehensive number of samples with every request so that you can see my level of experience and quality of my pictures.
• How do you ensure well being and healthiness during a session?
  • We will take all the necessary precautions, will take generous breaks and we will continuously check on your personal perspective, mutual understanding and if we want to continue.
• How you prefer to ensure aftercare?
  • Aftercare will be discussed separately because this is a delicate topic but will be settled before we meet. Basically we will discuss what you require.
• Which types of ropes do you use ?
  • I use professional Jouyoku Asanawa jute ropes for a better look and feel that are produced by a specialized manufaktura in Germany. They license those from a Japanese source and are of an excellent quality and can be used for regular Shibari as well as suspension.
• Do you have an emergency rope cutter ?
  • YES; I have a cutter that is capable of cutting metals, ropes. It is absolutely capable of easily cutting ropes should this be required and is always at hand.

My limits are:

• No suspension or any violence
• No drugs, alcohol
• We will only do what I consent to and only within my as well as your limits